The Problems of Marriage

The Problems of Marriage

Marriage is a ticklish subject, whether you look at it from the traditional standpoint, or, whether you put the modern twists on it. Two separate people coming together to form one “house” yet, coming in with two separate sets of standards. As fact, one partner will assume the “dominant” role – the role of leadership and the other will assume the “compliant” role. The whole objective of marriage is to work together for the common cause. It is a relationship where two different ideals get shared in a common venue, and in the ideal world where the best course of action is mutually chosen and agreed to. However, our world is not perfect and WE definitely are not perfect. Marriage is also a great magnifier. Marriage does not create problems, but it WILL reveal them and can intensify them. It WILL reveal how skilled or unskilled we are from the top of our emotions to the bottom of our pocketbooks. It is at this point we usually see one partner or the other accusing the other. Sometimes this is justified, but more times than not – both are equally to blame.

This is why, regardless of the emotional or spiritual state of your partner, you need to have or begin a relationship with God yourself. You need to get spiritually connected to God. Commit yourself to God’s standard and don't let the oceans of emotions sway you into making a stupid decisions. Decisions, especially those that are going to involve or effect another person, need to be carefully considered before they are made. So the first question is, have we spoken to God about it and researched His word to see what He has said about it and/or what His will is?

• James 1:5 And if any of you lacks wisdom, let them ask of God (who gives abundantly to all, and without reproach), and it shall be given them.
• 2 Tim.2:15 Give diligence to present yourself approved by God, a workman who doesn’t need to be ashamed, properly handling the Word of Truth.

The more you do this, the happier, more God-honoring, and more fulfilling your marriage is going to be. Creating that deep soul intimacy with God first, enables you to share the oneness that comes from being unified by a relationship to another person. And, in those times when things get out of balance with one another (and they will) it gives you a means to get if nothing else yourself, back into balance.

The Bible is abundant with examples of marriages both good and bad. From marriages of youth, to forced marriages and old marriages. Why do you suppose this is? We see examples of marriages that suffer the loss of a spouse, to examples of ones with abuse, ones that involve adulterous affairs to spouses abandoned. All of these show us that God's word covers the gambit. The adage of Ecclesiastes ch. 2:12; 3:15; 6:10; What has been is what will be, and what has been done is what will be done, and there is nothing new under the sun. proves true. God has included them so that we can learn from them.

Romans 15:4 For whatever was written in former days was written for our instruction, that through endurance and through the encouragement of the Scriptures we might have hope. (2 Tm.3:16; Ps. 119:50)

Jim